Quarter-Life Crisis

Note: This post isn't book related. The booky-goodness will be back tomorrow.

quarter-life crisis: noun
A period of doubt and anxiety that some teenagers experience after or sometimes during high school. Synonyms rebellion, stupidity-syndrome

Yep, you read that right. Quarter-life crisis, not midlife. If my math is accurate (which would be a first) at the age of around eighteen a quarter of your life has gone by.
So I give to you my quarter-life crisis...

I'll be turning eighteen this Wednesday and have found myself looking back on my teenage years, but haven't come up with much. You know how everyone says that they were "young and stupid"? Well what happens if you were young and just flat out boring? What if you weren't the class clown, the teacher's pet or the art guy that has everyone questioning his sobriety? What happens if you were just there?

Unfortunately, I don't really know the answer to that. Maybe you look back on your teen years and thank the world that you got out alive. But what about the part of being "young and stupid"? What happens to that? Does it just dissolve into nothing and you become wise based off of just being there? I don't think so...

So this theory leads me to my quarter-life crisis which consists of the following:

I want to do something rebellious. Like get a tattoo or go to a full out rock concert of my favorite band. The tattoo is never going to happen. Well "as long as I live under this (being my parent's) roof!" So scratch the first one.

Going to a rock concert is happening this summer: mosh pit, favorite band and all. Well it's more of alternative rock/punk concert, but same difference to me. I know a rock concert doesn't sound that rebellious, but to a girl whose most crazy act was driving reverse in a parking lot, it is.

I guess my quarter-life crisis is more me just wanting to do something, anything, while I'm still young. All I do is read and bum around the house, which last I checked, doesn't fall under the "Young and Stupid" category. Actually I think that category is titled "Young and Bored".

So what I'm getting at is... well honestly I really don't know what I'm trying to say. Maybe I'm trying to figure out what happens to the just there kids. The kids that didn't ace tests, but didn't flunk them either. To the people that knew what they wanted but were too afraid to go after it. Or the people that want something different than what society expects out of them. What happens to those kids?



  1. I was one of those kids, invisible in the crowd, boring. I went to school, did homework, watched tv and went swimming once a week. Sometimes went to other sports clubs but that was it.
    But don't worry life does get more exciting. I am now 22 and in the last 18 months I have had all sorts of experiences, I went to my first ever concert in London, got my first ever passport and went on my first ever holiday to France (Disneyland). I have done hire wire obstacle courses, written a novel, dressed up in many a costume at work and for charity, am going to my second concert next week, planning more holidays and just loving life. I still don't stick out massively but I'm certainly taking risks and having fun.

    I think it just comes later for some. So we weren't exciting or 'stupid' at school, but you can certainly make up for lost time.
    So don't worry, just look ahead and go where the wind takes you. Go Crazy! do whatever you want. Enjoy, but still be careful. :D

    Sorry if i babbled on a bit there. :D

  2. LOL I do love this post and even more so because l thought of myself while l was reading this.
    l just read, spend time with my family and BF and that is pretty much it!
    But so what if you happy?
    Who says you have to do crazy things to have a great teenage life?

  3. Haha, I'm exactly the same. Well, I probably have a label--"the kid who's sick all the time". Lol. But yeah, sometimes I feel like I've missed out because I haven't partied hard or anything like that. The closest I've been to doing something crazy is cutting my hair short--and even that didn't pan out (my stylist said she wouldn't do it--my long hair is "just too nice").

    I guess we're the types that don't peak in high school. Y'know? We'll probably be talking about our future successes, rather than about how crazy we were as kids.

  4. Maybe if you do know what you want you should do some of those things. And to be honest, lately I've been questioning all these preordained rules that society imposes on us. We're all so paranoid about what people think of us, but why should we care what strangers think?

    As for wondering... well, I do that too. And I guess that's why I have a strong opinion, because I wrestle with these issues myself. I'm almost 25, but I feel like I haven't accomplished much. Yes, I have 2 degrees, but I still sit at home by myself most of the time. I've done a couple of cool things, but I'm still scared to branch out. I feel like I have an excuse for everything, like... I desperately want to see Europe, but how can I do that when I have my student loans to pay off?

    I guess there's what you really want and then there's reality, and probably life should be somewhere inbetween. Take risks where you can, try and have fun, but still be responsible about things. Hopefully we can all find our middle ground. =)

  5. *smile* I was young and stupid once. And I must admit, sometimes I wish I could go back and be young and boring instead. Just remember the grass is always greener on the other side and you have plenty of time to be bad ;)

  6. I think this happens close to the end of every decade. Almost 20, almost 30....etc.

    Just go out and take chances, follow dreams, have no regrets! But not doing stupid stuff doesn't really fall into those categories. :)

  7. Don't worry. Doing fun or rebellious things doesn't suddenly stop or disappear when you aren't a teenager anymore.
    I'm going on 22 and am still having fun, so I can attest to that.

    Try not to stress about stuff like that too much. Just do what you enjoy doing and if there is something that you want to try, try it. It's your life so live how you want to, not how "everyone" else is. And if that means staying at home in the evening to read a book instead of going to some party then that is what you should do :)

  8. Awh Katie, well seeing that I'm a year younger than you, I don't have anything "wise" to say! But I understand oh to well exactly what you mean!

    A month before I turned seventeen I wrote a sort of farewell post to being sixteen and the bittersweet feeling I had about leaving 16 behind and embracing 17.

    I guess for some, it just comes with time. Maybe we're late bloomers? ;)

    LOL! I totally love this post! I'm totally just a 'there' kind of kid as well.

  9. I'm 29 years old. I was a very boring teenager. Definitely not popular. In fact, I was so not popular, that people didn't usually even realize I was around to make fun of me. I never took risks and always did what adults thought was smart. Honestly, I'm still that way. I've gone through periods where I think that I've missed so many opportunities - to do something wild and crazy fun. I don't regret not clubbing or drinking tons in college. What I do regret is not studying abroad or being a high school exchange student. I always thought that it would take away from my schooling, cost too much, or just be too inconvenient. And it would have been. But in the long run, it would have been so much more. So I'd suggest traveling - especially in college.

  10. Katie! I am going to say this just once you are one of the most amazing people I've ever met(and I've met a lot). I'm 22 now and I remember when I was 18. I believe in a lot of things that I don't know. I was one of those kids "young and bored" and let me tell you a secret we turn out to veryyyyyy well. We see the world different than a lot of people but a learn that that is a good thing even if you can't see it now. With age comes the freedom of doing things you couldn't do before. It doesn't mean that things get easier it just we now have the knowledge to make things better. How many times I had wish to go back to when I was 18. I miss that old me, I was free, innocent and naive and used to enjoy things better. Although I haven't change that much, in the end we always change a little. So enjoy been 18 and remember its never too late to do the things you want to do even if the people in your life don't agree with you, just do it because one thing I had learn with age is that the most things you regret are the ones you never did because you were afraid. So love deeply, laugh hard and cry when you have to. Life is too short so enjoy it now. :D

    P.S. High school is overrated :P
    P.S.S. I'm planing on getting a tattoo see is never too late

  11. Haha sounds like my life. I just kind of sit around and read too. Maybe its a homeschooler thing? We don't really have the opportunity to do a lot of rebellious stuff. Except not do our school I guess or maybe not get up early. Haha. XD

  12. Happy Almost Birthday!!!

    You know what I think happens... those kids keep living and realize that they still have decades to live whatever kind of crazy, adventurous life they want to live. My 20s have been the absolute most joyful, exciting years of my life, and I have a feeling that my 30s will be even better!

    And you know what often happens with those "crazy, rebellious" teenage acts? They become regrets - something no one really wants.

    Sending you best wishes for many, many, many years ahead of joy and adventure :)

  13. Oh yeaa I know this quarter life crisis! Last year when I turned 18. It was the same: "Go crazy."
    Well, my craziness ended up buying a guitar. And it wasn't really "crazy" because I had 10 years of musical formation behind me but still, I have never touched a guitar before.

    Your blogger name is: "Call me crazy", just pointing this out. I thought you were all about craziness Katie. =D

    My friends are so not into "young and stupid". I think this concept don't apply to everyone. We spend 20 minutes in MacDonald trying to figure out what to do next and then end up going home. Depressing.

    The just-there-kids. I was the kind who aces tests. The nerd. And I'm chinese, so people get this rebellious and zen vibe from me. But. I started to live since I turned 18. Like I woke up. 18 years of doing nothing. I was just there. Studying. Maybe everyone gets this feeling at some point.

    Don't worry! You will satrt to leave! Starting with this awesome concert.
    Have a great day. Last day being 17!

  14. I know exactly what you mean, Katie! I'd also fall under the "Young and Boring" category, at least according to 99% of my classmates, lol. I bum around the house after school and I'm a huge overachiever when it comes to school. Between essays and AP classes and scholarships and being the 'good girl' of my family, sometimes I just want to do something crazy, too!!

    Being younger than you, I obviously don't have any wisdom to share about what will happen to people like us when we get older or how we'll 'peak late' or whatever. Crazy for me is sometimes just driving to the skating rink with my sister and hanging out when I should be studying. I guess sometimes the best way to overcome a Quarter Life Crisis (love the term) is the same way people deal with mid-life crisises-- you just have to go with it sometimes. (Or you could be like my dad and go buy an antique sports car, lol.)

    Happy Almost-Birthday, by the way! :)

  15. yo yo happy almost b-day! I think I am going through a crisis too because I have no idea what I want. I just turned 18 last month and the only rebellious thing I did was buy a lottery ticket! (which I know doesn't sound all that rebellious cause it was legal, but let me tell you it was fun!)
    Now high school is almost over and the end of the tunnel is in sight. I really can't wait for college. Are you going to school too? If you are that's something to look forward to. ;)

  16. Do you know we spend 25 years of our life sleeping?
    Saw this on TV.

    Happy Birthday!

  17. Katie! I love you! You are one of my very best friends. And we are wild and crazy when we hang out. We have a blast; blasting music in your little yellow bug, dancing and singing along to our favorite bands! And I am determined to make you a concert maniac! It's gonna be sooo much fun,I can't wait. BTW we need to start to do everything on our apocolypse (?spelling) list. Starting with the Maine concert! I promise it WILL happen

  18. If you are happy why does it matter what category you fall into. Why do you have to fall into a category at all. Whether your bad or good, in the spot light or in the shadows, if your not happy it won't reflect whether you have really lived or rocked out while you were young. And I suppose it also depends on the definition of young and stupid because Id rather be boring than stupid and while some may think it is boring, it might be the most exciting thing for someone else. Besides there is so much life to live after eighteen, it is when freedom really starts (unless you live somewhere where 21 is considered freedom)... and I seem to have gone off in a random long long ramble, sorry bout that. Ace Post by the way!!!

  19. Thank you guys so much for all of the lovely comments. I'm glad I'm not the only one who is going through/ or went through this! You guys always make my day! :)