18th Birthday Extravaganza: Guest Post by Gwendolyn Heasley

It's Day 7 of our 18th Birthday Extravaganza and today the totally awesome Gwendolyn Heasley writes a letter to her 18 year old self.

Dear Gwendolyn,

I am going to give you some advice. And you should read carefully since 1) I am older than you 2) I know you better than anyone else. I know that you are about to go off to college in the South and don’t have a single friend there, and I know that you are scared. My first piece of advice is don’t be afraid because it all works out. You’ll make wonderful friends and have adventures a plenty. Just give it time. I promise. Now that the biggest advice is out of the way. Here’s the rest of my advice.

1. Be easy on yourself. Some people bloom early and some people bloom late. Be patient and kind- and remember that how you look doesn’t matter. It’s how you feel that matters.
2. But if you want to help yourself out, maybe stop wearing overalls since it is the new millennium. And throw away those clogs and white lipstick.
3. Keep your promises. Even when you realize there’s a whole world of new people at college, remember to stay true to everyone who knew you when you wore a uniform and had braces. (And clogs, overalls, and white lipstick). You don’t have to choose between friends. Ever.
4. Remember that college is a time for fun and to learn but also remember to reflect on what you want to be. It seems little kids get asked all the time “What you want to be when you grow up?” but people forget to ask any one over seven. Remember (between the parties and class) to ask yourself “What you want to be when you are grown up?” And if you think you are already grown up, get ready for a surprise.
5. Call your mother. She worries. And she’ll hold how you didn’t call often in college over your head for decades.
6. Meet lots of boys. Don’t worry about meeting the boy.
7. Don’t take any classes just because they are at a good time or sound easy. You will be bored.
8. Also, realize that college is four years of your life. Four years actually long, so start thinking about the places you want to live and the jobs you want to have. A dream isn’t a silly thing to have, especially if you have a plan.
9. Try sushi soon. You’ll love it. And stay away from any peppermint liquor. Trust me.
10. Live today, look fondly back at yesterday and dream up tomorrow.

And if I really know you, you probably won’t listen to any of my good advice. But that’s okay because it will all still work out. I promise.



Thank you so much Gwendolyn!

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  1. I really liked Where I Belong !! Corrinne was such a funny character !! =) Thanks for the post !!

  2. Love it! All these points were great (but hey, I like overalls! Sadface)!
    I especially liked the one about college. I'm still trying to figure out what I want to be (people do still ask me! All the time!), so I'm hoping that, like you said, college will give me the opportunity to reflect on what I really want to do. :)

  3. Sushi is awesome...I just ate a bunch of it. I loved Where I Belong--Can't wait to read whatever comes next!

  4. I totally agree with number 2! The worst was the white lipstick. What was up with that?